*Article published on August 1, 2017 at the Good Men Project*

I used to be just like you. I maybe have even been through some shit you’ve never even thought you’d ever experience.


I’ve held my five-month-old son in my arms while he seizes uncontrollably multiple times per day. Doctors had no idea what was going on. I was diagnosed with cancer and fought that for many years before getting the full-recovery nod in 2015. I have been in toxic relationships, worked for toxic employers, I’ve had toxic friendships.


And at no point did I ever think that any of this was on me. I was a victim and no way any of this was my fault. Society wants you to believe it’s not your fault too. You might even believe it too!


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The Harder You Work, The More Success You Achieve, The More Your Past Life Looks Easy.


Fast forward to today. Life is still hard. Challenges haven’t gotten better, things have gotten harder. The harder you work, the more success you achieve, the more your past life looks easy. This happens when you level up.


There are days I look back at the things that used to stress me out and I laugh. Literally LOL.


There’s a difference between the old me and the new me. And if you listen up, there’s a chance it’s not too late for you either. Pull up a chair, class is in session.


Opportunity From Adversity.


Notorious BIG said Mo Money, Mo Problems, and I would have to agree. The more success you achieve, the bigger the challenges and the bigger the headaches.


It is also interesting that the more money you make, the more people are standing there with their hands out, but that’s a whole different blog post.


As the challenges get bigger, you can face them and they can make you stronger or you can buckle under the pressure and they can cripple you.


80% of new startup companies don’t last past 18 months. Know why? It’s hard and when it gets hard 80% of people aren’t willing to suck it up, put in the work, and do whatever it takes.


Is it really 80% that aren’t willing to work, no probably not.


I’m Sure A Portion Can’t Learn From The Challenges To Adapt Before It’s Too Late.


So, what does this all mean?


Every challenge is a learning opportunity if you’re willing to embrace it. Can you have the foresight and ability to step back from the challenge, amidst the chaos, and determine the underlying issues?


Can you learn what is happening at the imperial level to allow yourself and your team to adopt a policy, system, process or procedure to make sure this kind of thing doesn’t happen again?


This Is How You Grow


You try and you fail. You learn when you fail. In most cases, you learn when you fail more than you learn when everything goes great!


So as you have struggles, you adapt and implement strategies. You try again and smile at the results of a well-oiled machine that’s just been tweaked and is now running great.


After a period of time, you’ll have experienced so many challenges and overcome them that you’ve developed a somewhat bulletproof system that can be grown, scaled, or even transplanted.


This system can help you transition into new markets where you’ll test the entire system in new territory and most likely be challenged again.


Can we learn from our struggles? It’s the only way to survive. If you want to be one of the 20% that makes it past 18 months, you need to be able to suck it up when things get hard. You also need to be embrace the challenges and learn to adapt.


Trust me, I’m a doctor!

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