*Article published on February 8, 2018 at the Good Men Project*

In a time when it’s en vogue to be an entrepreneur or founder, more and more people are referring to themselves as self-made this or that. Enough is enough, it’s time to cut the crap and get down to brass tax!

You Haven’t Self-Made a Damn Thing!

I see the same type of statement a lot on the internet these days, “I’m a self-made man”, or “I built this all by myself”, or “I built this empire by myself”. I can’t help but shake my head when I read this kind of self-absorbed bullshit. You didn’t “self-make” a damn thing, you always had help.


Now, before you stop reading, thinking I’m full of crap and poo-pooing on your narcissistic parade, hear me out.


Every experience you have in life, the good times and the bad, they all shape your decision making paradigm moving forward. Every person that you have the opportunity to interact with has the ability to shape your thought process, your desires, your dreams, and your actions. Read that closely: They have the ability to. This doesn’t mean that they do, but there is a good chance that conversations, and actions plant seeds in our minds that may eventually take root and grow.


These collective experiences is called influence. What you might be thinking at this point: Influence isn’t action! No one took action besides me! I did this! And there is a good chance you are right. The key to realize though is that without the influence, the inspiration, the collective experience, there’s a good chance you wouldn’t have taken that first step.


The haters and doubters in our life can fuel our entrepreneurial fires! The love and support we receive from others can provide us the confidence boost we sometimes require. You aren’t living and operating in a bubble.


When you start to take real action and start to see momentum, the first thing most entrepreneurs begin to think about is how do I grow and scale this momentum? How do I multiply my small wins into major success? Many will start to get help. This team, whether paid or volunteer, helps to build the vision and dream.


When I hear people screaming from the top of nearby summits about what they made on their own, I feel bad for the shoulders of the giants they are standing on to shout their message. Never lose sight of those that have come before you that guided, mentored, doubted, supported, ridiculed, and helped you along the way. Give credit where it is due! Put that energy out into the universe and you’ll be amazed at how much comes back to you! Stay hungry and remain humble!

I’ve been through a ton of crap in my life, I came out on the other side, but I always had help; and I wrote a best-selling book about it. Want a free copy? Click here to claim your own! 

Trust me, I’m a doctor!

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